The Blessings in Pain

Pain is not always a negative force and it is not something that you should always hate. At times a person benefits when he feels pain.

You might remember, that at times when you felt a lot of pain, you sincerely supplicated and remembered Allah. When he is studying, the student often feels the pangs of heavy burden, sometimes perhaps the burden of monotony, yet he eventually leaves this stage of life as a scholar. He felt burdened with pain at the beginning but he shined at the end.

The aches and pangs of passion, the poverty and the scorn of others, the frustration and anger at injustices – these all cause the poet to write flowing and captivating verses. This is because he himself feels pain in his heart, his nerves, and in his blood, and as a result, he is able to infuse the same emotions into the hearts of others. How many painful experiences does the writer undergo, experiences that inspire brilliant works, works that posterity continues to enjoy and learn from.

The student who lives the life of comfort and repose and who is not stung by hardships, or who has never been befallen by calamity will be an unproductive, lazy, and lethargic person.

Indeed, the poet who knows no pain and who has never tasted bitter disappointment will invariably produce heaps upon heaps of cheap words – absolute humdrum. This is because his words pour forth from his tongue and not from his feelings or emotion, and though he may comprehend what he has written, his heart and body have not lived the experience.

More worthy and relevant to the aforementioned examples are the lives of the early believers, who lived during the period of revelation and who took part in the most important religious revolution that mankind has seen. Indeed, they had greater faith, nobler hearts, more truthful tongues, and deeper knowledge: they had all of these because they lived through the pain and suffering that are necessarily concomitant to great revolutions.

They felt the pains of hunger, of poverty, of rejection, of abuse, of banishment from home and country; of abandonment of all pleasures, of the pains of wounds and of death and torture. They were in truth chosen ones, the elite of mankind. They were models of purity, nobleness, and sacrifice.

“That is because they suffer neither thirst nor fatigue, nor hunger in the Cause of Allah, nor they take any step to raise the anger of disbelievers nor inflict any injury upon an enemy, but is written to their credit as a deed of righteousness. Surely, Allah wastes not the reward of the doers of good.”
[Surah At-Taubah; 120].

In the history of the world there are those that have produced their greatest works because of the pain or the suffering they experienced. Al-Mutanabi, when afflicted with a severe fever, wrote some of his best poetry. An-Nabighah was threatened with death by An-Nu’man ibn Mundhir, contributed the classic poem with the opening couplet:

‘Verily, you are the sun, while other kings are the stars:
when the sun rises, no star in the sky is visible.’

There are many such examples who prospered and became legends because of the sufferings they experienced. Therefore, do not become excessively anxious when you think of pain, and do not fear suffering. It might well be that through pain and suffering you become stronger.

And furthermore, for you to live with a burning and passionate heart that has been stung is purer and nobler than to live the dispassionate existence of a cold heart and a short-sighted outlook.

“But Allah was averse to their being sent forth, so He made them lag behind, and it was said (to them), ‘Sit you among those who sit (at home).’”
[Surah At-Taubah; 46].

The words of a passionate sermon can reach the innermost depths of the heart and penetrate the deepest regions of the soul, usually because the one who gives such sermons has himself experienced pain and suffering.

“He knew what was in their hearts, and He sent down calmness (and tranquility) upon them, and He rewarded them with a near victory.”
Surah Al-Fath; 18].

I have read many books of poetry, yet most are passionless, without life or soul. This is because their authors never endured hardship, and because they were composed among surroundings of comfort. Thus the works of such authors were cold, like blocks of ice.

I have read books filled with sermons that do not shake a hair on the body of the listener and that lack an atom’s weight of impact. The orator is not speaking with feeling and sentiment, or in other words, pain and suffering.

“They say with their mouths, that which is not in their hearts.”
Surah Al-Imran; 167].

If you wish to affect and influence others, whether it be with your speech or with your poetry, or even with your actions, you must first feel the passion inside of you. You must be moved yourself by the meanings of what you are trying to convey. Then, you will come to realize that you have an influence upon others.

“But when We send down water (rain) on it, it is stirred (to life), it swells and puts forth every lovely kind (of growth).”
[Surah Al-Hajj; 5].

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

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Contemplate & Be Thankful

Remember the favours of Allah upon you and how they surround you from above and below indeed, from every direction.
“And if you would count the graces of Allah, never could you be able to count them.”
[Surah Ibraheem - Ayah 34.]

Health, safety, nourishment, clothing, air, and water – these all point to the world being yours, yet you do not realise it. You possess all that life has to offer, yet remain ignorant.
“He has completed and perfected His Graces upon you, [both] apparent and hidden.”
[Surah Luqman - Ayah 20.]

You have at your disposal two eyes, a tongue, lips, two hands, and two legs.
“Then which of the blessings of your Lord will you both deny?”
[Surah Ar-Rahman - Ayah 13.]

Can you picture yourself walking without feet? Should you take it lightly that you slumber soundly while misery hinders the sleep of many? Should you forget that you fill yourself with both delicious dishes and cool water while the pleasure of good food and drink is impossible for some, due to sickness and disease?
Consider those faculties of hearing and seeing with which you have been endowed.
Look at your healthy skin and be grateful that you have been saved from diseases that attack it.
Reflect on your powers of reasoning and remember those that suffer from mental ailments.

Would you sell your ability to hear and see for the weight of Mount Uhud in gold, or your ability to speak for huge castles? You have been given abundant favours, yet you feign ignorance. Notwithstanding warm bread, cool water, easy sleep, and good health, you remain despondent and depressed. You think about what you do not have and are ungrateful for what you have been given. You are troubled by a loss in wealth, yet you have the key to happiness and many blessings.
Contemplate and be thankful.

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

Published in: on April 19, 2009 at 1:09 am  Leave a Comment  

The Past is gone forever, Today is all you have

By brooding over the past and its tragedies, one evinces a form of insanity – a kind of sickness that destroys resolve to live for the present moment. Those who have a firm purpose have filed away and forgotten occurrences of the past, which will never see the light again, since they occupy such a dark place in the recesses of the mind. Episodes of the past are finished with; sadness cannot retrieve them, melancholy cannot make things right, and depression will never bring the past back to life. This is because the past is non-existent.“So hold that which I have given you and be of the grateful.”
[Surah Al-A’raf; Ayah 144]

Do not live in the nightmares of former times or under the shade of what you have missed. Save yourself from the ghostly apparition of the past. Do you think that you can return the sun to its place of rising, the baby to its mother’s womb, milk to the udder, or tears to the eye? By constantly dwelling on the past and its happenings, you place yourself in a very frightful and tragic state of mind.

Reading too much into the past is a waste of the present. When Allah mentioned the affairs of the previous nations, He said:
“That was a nation who has passed away.”
[Surah al-Baqarah; 2:134]

Our tragedy is that we are incapable of dealing with the present: neglecting our beautiful castles, we wail over dilapidated buildings. If every man and every jinn were to try jointly to bring back the past, they would fail because that is an impossibility. Everything on earth marches forward, preparing for a new season and so should you.

Today is all you have

When you wake up in the morning do not expect to see the evening – live as though today is all that you have. Yesterday has passed with its good and evil, while tomorrow has not yet arrived. Your life’s span is but one day, as if you were born in it and will die at the end of it. With this attitude, you will not be caught between an obsession over the past, with all its anxieties, and the hopes of the future, with all its uncertainty. For today only should you expend energies, concerns, and efforts. In this day you should pray with a wakeful heart, recite the Qur’an with understanding, and remember Allah with sincerity. In this day you should be balanced in your affairs, satisfied with your allotted portion, concerned with your appearance and health.

Organise the hours of this day, so that you make years out of minutes and months out of seconds. Seek forgiveness from your Lord, remember Him, prepare for the final parting from this world, and live today happily and at peace. Be content with your sustenance, your wife, your children, your work, your house and your station in life.

Live today free from sorrow, bother, anger, jealousy, and malice.

You must engrave onto your heart one phrase: Today is my only day. If you have eaten warm, fresh bread today, then what does yesterday’s dry, rotten bread and tomorrow’s anticipated bread matter?

If you are truthful with yourself and have a firm, solid resolve, you will undoubtedly convince yourself of the following: Today is my last day to live. When you attain this attitude, you will profit from every moment of your day, by developing your personality expanding your abilities, and purifying your deeds.

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

 

Published in: on April 12, 2009 at 1:07 am  Leave a Comment  

Our Emotions

Emotions and sentiments flare up for two reasons: (1) joy and (2) affliction. In a hadith, the Prophet (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam) said:

‘Verily, I have been prohibited from emitting two foolish and wicked sounds, one that is emitted when something favorable happens, and the other that is expressed when calamity strikes’

“In order that you may not he sad over matters that you fail to get, nor rejoice because of that which has been given to you.”
[Surah An-Hadid; 23].

For this reason, the Prophet (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam) said:

‘Verily, true patience is that which is displayed during the initial shock.’

Therefore, when one contains his emotions upon both the joyful and the calamitous occasion, he is likely to achieve peace and tranquility, happiness and comfort, and the taste of victory over his own self. Allah described man as being exultant and boastful, irritable, discontented when evil touches him, and niggardly when good touches him. The exceptions, Allah informs us, are those who remain constant in prayer. For they are on a middle path in times of both joy and sorrow. They are thankful during times of ease and are patient during times of hardship.

Unbridled emotions can greatly wear a person out, causing pain and loss of sleep. When such a person becomes angry, he flares up, threatens others, loses all self-control, and surpasses the boundaries of justice and balance. Meanwhile, if he becomes happy, he is in a state of rapture and wildness. In his intoxication of joy, he forgets himself and surpasses the bounds of modesty. When he renounces and relinquishes the company of others, he disparages them, forgetting their virtues while stamping out their good qualities. On the other hand, if he loves others, he spares no pains in according them all forms of veneration and honor, portraying them as the pinnacles of perfection. The Prophet (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam) said:

‘Love the one who is beloved to you in due moderation, for perhaps the day will come when you will abhor him. And hate the one whom you detest in due moderation, for perhaps the day will arrive when you will come to love him.’

And in another hadith, the Prophet Muhammad (Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam) said:

‘And I ask you (O Allah) to make me just, both while being in a state of anger and while being in a state of joy.’

So when a person curbs his emotions, when he controls his mind, and when to each matter he gives according to the weight of its importance, he will have taken a step toward wisdom and true understanding.

“Indeed We have sent Our Messengers with clear proofs, and revealed with them the Scripture and the Balance [justice] that mankind may keep up justice.”
[Surah Al-Hadid; 25].

Indeed, Islam came as much with balance in morals, manners, and dealings as it did with its straightforward, holy, and a truthful way of life.

“Thus We have made you a just [the best] nation.”
[Surah Al-Baqarah; 143].

Being just is an end that is called for in both our manners and in matters of jurisprudence. In fact, Islam is founded on truth and justice – truthfulness in all that we are told through revelation, and justice in rulings, sayings, actions, and manners.

“And the Word of your Lord has been fulfilled in truth and in justice.”
[Surah Al An’am; 115].

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

Published in: on March 18, 2009 at 1:46 am  Leave a Comment  

The Art of Happiness (2)

The truth of the matter is that you cannot remove from yourself all remnants of grief. And the reason for this is that life is created as a test:

“Verily, We have created man in toil.”
[Surah Al-Balad; 4].

“That He might try you, which of you is the best in deeds.”
[Surah Hud; 7].

But the message that I wish to convey to you is that you should, as much as possible, reduce the amount and intensity of your grief. As for being completely free from grief; this is for the inhabitants of Paradise in the Hereafter. This is why the dwellers of Paradise shall say:

“All the praises and thanks be to Allah, Who has removed from us [all] grief.”
[Surah Fatir; 34].

This is considered to be a proof that grief was not removed from them except in Paradise.

So when a person knows the nature of this world and its qualities, he will find it to be dry, deceitful, and unworthy; he will come to understand that this is its nature and its description. One of Arab poets said:

‘You have taken an oath not to betray us in our pacts, and it is as if you have vowed that in the end, you shall deceive us.’

If the description of this world is as I have described it, then it is worthy of the intelligent person not to help it in its onslaught, not to surrender to depression and anxiety. What we should do is fight and defend ourselves from all feelings that may spoil our lives, a war that we must wage with all the strength that we have been endowed with.

“And make ready against them all you can of power; including steeds of war to threaten the enemy of Allah and your enemy…”
[Surah Al-Anfal; 60].

“But they never lost heart for that which did befall them in Allah’s Way, nor did they weaken nor degrade themselves.”
[Surah Al-Imran; 146].

A pause to reflect: Do not be sad. If you are poor, then someone else is immersed in debt. If you do not own your own means of transportation, then someone else has been deprived of his legs. If you have reason to complain concerning the pains of sickness, then someone else has been bedridden for years. And if you have lost a child, then someone else has lost many children, for instance, in a single car accident.

Do not be sad. You are a Muslim who believes in Allah, His Messengers, His angels, the Hereafter, and in Preordainment – the good and the bad of it. While you are blessed with this faith, which is the greatest of blessings, others disbelieve in Allah, discredit the Messengers, differ among themselves concerning the Book, deny the Hereafter, and deviate in their understanding of Preordainment and Predestination. Do not be sad, because if you are, you disturb your soul and heart, and you prevent yourself from sleeping.

One of the Arab poets said:
‘How often is the young man overcome with despair when afflicted, and with Allah is the way out. The situation becomes unbearable, and when its rope tightens, it snaps, and throughout, he never thought that he would be saved’

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

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The Art of Happiness (1)

Among the greatest of blessings is to have a calm, stable, and happy heart. For in happiness the mind is clear, enabling one to be a productive person.

It has been said that happiness is an art that needs to be learnt. And if you learn it, you will be blessed in this life. But how does one learn it? A basic principle of achieving happiness is having an ability to endure and to cope with any situation. Therefore you should neither be swayed nor governed by difficult circumstances, nor should you be annoyed by insignificant trifles. Based on the purity of the heart and its ability to endure, a person will shine. When you train yourself to be patient and forbearing, then hardship and calamity will be easy for you to bear.

The opposite of being content is being short-sighted, being concerned for no one but one’s own self and forgetting about the world and all that is in it. Allah described his enemies as follows:

“Thinking about themselves [as how to save their own selves, ignoring the others and the Prophet]…”
[Surah Al-Imran; 154].

It is as if such people see themselves as being the whole universe, or at least at the centre of it. They think not of others, nor do they live for anyone but themselves. It is incumbent upon you and I to take time out to be preoccupied with more than just ourselves, and to sometimes distance ourselves from our own problems in order to forget our wounds and hurts. By doing this we gain two things: we make ourselves happy, and we bring joy to others.

Basic to the art of happiness is to bridle our thoughts and to restrain them, not allowing them to wander, stray, escape, or go wild. For if you were to leave your thoughts to wander as they wish, then they will run wild and control you. They will open the catalogue of your past woes.

They will remind you of the history of your misfortunes, beginning from the day that your mother gave you birth. If your thoughts are left to roam, then they will bring to you images of past difficulties and images of a future that is frightening. These thoughts will shake your very being and will cause your feelings to flare. Therefore bridle them, and restrain them by directing them to the concentrated application of the kind of serious thought that begets fruitful and beneficial work.

“And put your trust in the Ever-Living One Who dies not.”
[Surah Al-Furqan; 58]

Also among the principles of the art of happiness is to value life on this earth according to its true merit and worth. This life is frivolous and does not warrant anything from you except that you turn away from it. This life is filled with calamities, aches, and wounds. If that is the description of this life, then how can one be unduly affected by its minor calamities, and how can one grieve over such material things as have passed by? The best moments of life are tainted, its future promises are mere mirages, the successful ones in it are envied, the one who is blessed is constantly threatened, and lovers are struck down by some unexpected misfortune.

There is a hadith:
“Verily, knowledge is only acquired by the practice of learning, and tolerance is acquired by the practice of tolerating.”

If one were to reflect and attempt to apply the meaning of this hadith to the topic under discussion, then he could go one step further and say that happiness is acquired by assuming it. It is acquired by constantly smiling, by hunting for the reasons that make one happy, and even by forcing it onto one’s self; however awkward that may seem. One does all of these things until happiness becomes second nature.

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

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The Blessings of Pain

Pain is not always a negative force and it is not something that you should always hate. At times a person benefits when he feels pain.

You might remember, that at times when you felt a lot of pain, you sincerely supplicated and remembered Allah.

When he is studying, the student often feels the pangs of heavy burden, sometimes perhaps the burden of monotony, yet he eventually leaves this stage of life as a scholar. He felt burdened with pain at the beginning but he shined at the end. The aches and pangs of passion, the poverty and the scorn of others, the frustration and anger at injustices – these all cause the poet to write flowing and captivating verses. This is because he himself feels pain in his heart, his nerves, and in his blood, and as a result, he is able to infuse the same emotions into the hearts of others. How many painful experiences does the writer undergo experiences that inspire brilliant works, works that posterity continues to enjoy and learn from.

The student who lives the life of comfort and repose and who is not stung by hardships, or who has never been befallen by calamity will be an unproductive, lazy, and lethargic person.

Indeed, the poet who knows no pain and who has never tasted bitter disappointment will invariably produce heaps upon heaps of cheap words – absolute humdrum. This is because his words pour forth from his tongue and not from his feelings or emotion, and though he may comprehend what he has written, his heart and body have not lived the experience.

More worthy and relevant to the aforementioned examples are the lives of the early believers, who lived during the period of revelation and who took part in the most important religious revolution that mankind has seen. Indeed, they had greater faith, nobler hearts, more truthful tongues, and deeper knowledge: they had all of these because they lived through the pain and suffering that are necessarily concomitant to great revolutions. They felt the pains of hunger, of poverty, of rejection, of abuse, of banishment from home and country; of abandonment of all pleasures, of the pains of wounds and of death and torture. They were in truth chosen ones, the elite of mankind. They were models of purity, nobleness, and sacrifice.

“That is because they suffer neither thirst nor fatigue, nor hunger in the Cause of Allah, nor they take any step to raise the anger of disbelievers nor inflict any injury upon an enemy, but is written to their credit as a deed of righteousness. Surely, Allah wastes not the reward of the doers of good.”.
[surah At-Taubah – Ayah 120].

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

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Smile – Pause to reflect

How much in need we are of a smile, a friendly face, easy-going manners, and a gentle, generous soul. The Prophet (sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam) said:
‘Verily, Allah has revealed to me that you should be humble, so that none of you should transgress upon another, and none of you should be arrogant and proud to another.’

Smile – Pause to reflect

Do not be sad: when you experienced sadness yesterday, you were neither benefited nor consoled. Your son failed, and you became depressed, yet did this depression change the fact that he failed? Your father passed away, and you became downhearted, yet did this bring him back to life? You lost your business, and you became saddened. Did this change your situation by transforming losses into profits?

Do not be sad: You became despondent due to a calamity, and by doing so, created additional calamities. You became depressed because of poverty and this only increased the bitterness of your situation. You became gloomy because of what your enemies said to you, and by doing so, you unwittingly helped them in their attack upon you. You became sullen because you expected a particular misfortune, and yet it never came to pass.

Do not be sad: Truly a large mansion will not protect you from the effects of depression; and neither will a beautiful wife, abundant wealth, a high position, or brilliant children.

Do not be sad: Sadness causes you to imagine poison when you are really looking at pure water, to see a cactus when you are looking at a rose, to see a barren desert when you are looking at a lush garden, and to feel that you are in an unbearable prison when you are living on a vast and expansive earth.

Do not be sad: You have two eyes, two ears, lips, two hands, two legs, a tongue, a heart, peace, safety and a healthy body.

“Then which of the Blessings of your Lord will you both [jinn and men] deny?”</I.
[surah Ar-Rahman – Ayah 13].

Do not be sad: You have the true Religion to live by, a house to live in, bread to eat, water to drink, clothes to wear, a wife to find comfort in; why then the melancholy?

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

Published in: on March 18, 2009 at 1:42 am  Leave a Comment  

and .. Smile!

There are those souls that are able to turn everything into misery, whilst there are those that are able to make from everything happiness and contentment.

There is the woman in the house whose eyes fall upon nothing but mistakes. Today is black because a piece of fine china broke or because the cook put too much salt in the food. Then she flares up and curses, and no one in the house escapes from her execrations. Then there is the man who brings misery upon his own self and through his disposition heaps it upon others also. Any word that he hears he interprets in the worst possible way. He is affected gravely by the most insignificant of things that occur to him, or that have occurred to him by his actions. He is drawn into misery by profits lost, by profits expected that went unrealized, and so on. The whole world from his perspective is black, and so he blackens it for those around him. Such people have much ability to over-exaggerate the trifles that occur to them.

Thus they make mountains out of molehills. Their ability to do well is negligent, and they are never happy or content with that which they have, even if what they had was plenty. No matter how great their possessions, they will never feel any blessings from what they have.

Life is like an art or a science: it needs to he learned and cultivated. It is much better for a person to plant love in his life than to glorify money, using all his might to help it ease its way into his pocket or into his account. What is life when all its energies are exploited and used for the sole purpose of accumulating wealth, an existence where no energy is directed toward the cultivation of beauty, splendor, and love?

Most people do not open their eyes to the beauty of life, but open them only to gold or silver. They pass by a lush and luxuriant garden, a beautiful bed of roses, a flowing river or a group of singing birds, yet they are unmoved by such scenes. All that moves them is the coming and going of money into or out of-their pockets. Money is but a means to a happy life. They have reversed this fact, have sold their happy existence, and have made money to be an end in itself. Our body has been equipped with eyes to see beauty with, yet we have trained them to look on nothing but money.

Nothing can cause the soul or the face to frown as does despondency. If you want to be a smiling person, wage war with despondency and hopelessness. The door to opportunity is always open to you and to others, and so is the door to success. So indoctrinate your mind with hopes of prosperity in the future.

If you believe that you are inconsequential and have been created for things of only minor importance then your achievement in life will never surpass this initial goal. And if you believe that your calling in life is to achieve extraordinary feats, you will feel in you a determination that can destroy all kinds of barriers. This can be exemplified as follows. Whoever enters a 100 meter race will feel tired the moment he completes it, whereas anyone that enters a 400 meter race, will not-feel fatigue after passing the 100 or 200 meter mark. Therefore the soul gives resolution and will power in proportion to your goal. Thus you must identify your goal, and let it be high and difficult to achieve. And never feel despondency as long as you are taking a new step in its direction everyday.

What blocks the soul, making it frown and placing it in a dark prison? The answer is despondency, hopelessness, seeing everything as being evil, searching for faults in others and in constantly speaking about the evilness of the world.

Blessed is the one who has a teacher that helps him to develop his natural abilities and broaden his horizons. The best teacher is the one that instills kindness and generosity into his pupil, and teaches that the noblest of pursuits that one can strive for, is to be a source of goodness to others, in accordance with one’s abilities. The soul should be like the sun, radiating light and hope. The heart should be filled with tenderness, virtue, benevolence, and a genuine love for spreading good to all those that are connected to it.

The smiling soul sees difficulties, and loves to surmount them. When it sees problems, it smiles. It solves them, overcomes them, and smiles. The frowning soul, when faced with a problem, magnifies it and belittles its own determination, while spending all its time justifying. What is the age or times that it curses except its own self and upbringing. It loves success in life, but is not willing to pay its price. On every path, it sees a grinning lion. It waits only for gold to shower down upon it, or to chance upon some treasure in the ground.

Difficult things in life are only relative, for everything is difficult for the ordinary person, while there is no great difficulty for the remarkable person. While the remarkable person increases in worthiness by overcoming obstacles, the weak person increases in meanness by running away from them. Problems are comparable to a vicious dog. When it sees you scared or running away, it barks and follows in pursuit. However, when it sees your scorn, your lack of concern, and when you shine your eyes in its direction, it gives way and recoils within itself.

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

Published in: on March 18, 2009 at 1:41 am  Leave a Comment  

Smile!

Laughing moderately can act as a cure or therapy for depression and sadness. It has a strong influence on keeping the soul light and the heart clear. Abu Darda (radiAllahu anhu) said, ‘I make it a practice to laugh in order to give rest and comfort to my heart. And the noblest of people, Muhammad (sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam), would laugh, sometimes until his molars became visible.’

Laughing is an efficacious way to achieve comfort and light heartedness, but keep in mind that, as in other things, you should not be immoderate. The Prophet (sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam) said:
‘Do not laugh excessively, for verily, excessive laughter kills the heart.’

What is called for is moderation.

He (sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam) further said: ‘And if you smile in the face of your brother, then this is a form of charity.’

Allah tells us: “So he, Sulaiman, smiled, amused by her speech.”
[surah An-Naml – Ayah 19].

Among the pleasures of Paradise will be laughter:
“But this Day those who believe will laugh at the disbelievers.”
[surah Al-Mutaffifin – Ayah 34].

The Arabs would hold in high esteem the one known for his smile and laughter. They believed this to proclaim a generous personality, a person with a noble disposition and a clear mind. The truth is that the principles of Islam are based on moderation and on good measure, whether it be in matters of belief, worship, manners, or conduct. Islam does not condone a rigid, frowning expression, nor does it condone a constant playful giddiness; rather what it does promote is seriousness when it is called for.

Bearing a gloomy mien and a frowning countenance are marks of a lowly character, a troubled nature, and hot-headedness.

“Then he frowned and he looked in a bad tempered way…”</I.
[surah Al-Muddaththir – Ayah 22]. The Prophet (sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam) advised the people:
‘Do not disparage (underestimate) any good deed (no matter how small it is), even if that deed was to meet your brother with a friendly countenance.’

Ahmed Ameen said in his book Fayd al-Khatir:
“People who are always smiling not only make their own lives more joyful, but what is more, they are more productive people in their work and have a greater ability to live up to their responsibilities. They are more prepared to face difficulties and to find expedient solutions for them. They are prolific workers who benefit themselves and others.”

If I were given a choice between having status in society and plentiful money, or between having a happy, radiant, smiling self, I would choose the latter.
For what is great wealth if it begets misery? And what is high position if what comes with it is constant gloominess? And what good is the most beautiful wife if she transforms her house into a living hell?
Much better than her – a thousand times at least – is a wife who has not reached such a pinnacle of beauty, but nonetheless has made her house to be a paradise.

The human being by his very nature is a smiling entity, were it not for those things that counteract this natural disposition, such as greed and selfishness, evils that contribute to his frowning. As such he is an anomaly and at odds with the natural harmony of all that surrounds him. Therefore the person whose heart is sullied cannot see things as they truly are. Every person sees the world through himself, by his actions, thoughts, and motives. So if our action is noble, our thought is clean, and our motive is honorable, then the spectacles through which we see the world will be clean, and the world will appear as it really is – a beautiful creation. If the spectacles become dirty, and their lenses stained, then everything will seem to be black and morbid.

 

Shaykh Aaid Al-Qarni

Published in: on March 18, 2009 at 1:40 am  Comments (1)  
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